The following club idea comes from our friends in Henderson, Kentucky. They used the idea of a "Man Panel" at their Valentine's Club... but I think it would well at any club throughout the year!
"For our Valentine’s Club we serve the girls a nice meal with candlelight; we escort them into the dining room, give them a rose, “take them on a date”. We don’t really do a craft or very many games because panel is so long. Once we’re done with the meal, we go into club and have some singing and introduce our 4 men (all different ages, race, vocation...even a high school guy!). During dinner we encouraged the girls to use the blank notecards around the table to write down questions they would ask a man about love, sex, feelings, spirituality, relationships...anything they want to know but feel like they don’t get the straight answers about in their lives. We also have some pre-designed questions that we feel like need to be spoken to the girls that we already have in the bucket. So after introducing the panel guests, our MC (one of the leaders) will begin by some brief introductions and then asking questions. It has been sooooo amazing what the girls have asked! Innocent and revealing.
Some of our sample questions are:
1. How will you/or did you “know” when you were in love?
2. Do you think having sex shows that you love someone?
3. What do you “look for” in a woman? (this one got some laughter from the audience because the girls always think this question means legs, booty, smile, etc…)
4. Does the way a girl/woman looks affect how you feel about her?
5. Did you abstain before marriage/are you planning to?
6. Define beautiful.
7. How do you define sex?
And the list goes on and on, but you get the idea. The girls always amaze us at their insight and intelligent questions. And yes, there are the inevitable inappropriate questions. First year we were 10 shades of red after reading one of the girls’ questions, and we did not ask it.
We like to end by thanking the men, praying over them and the girls. There is not much in the way of open discussion, that way we keep it under control. That’s why we went with cards."
Thank you Jen Gardner for sharing this! Have a club (or otherwise) idea that you want to share? Email Amy at firstname.lastname@example.org to submit your idea. It could appear on the blog!